As more millennials and Gen Xers enter the housing market, it is an exciting yet stressful time, especially for those buying a house with their significant other.
In fact, LendingHome, the largest, fastest-growing mortgage marketplace lender, today revealed new survey data showing that 60 percent of millennial and Gen X couples disagreed occasionally, frequently, or “a lot” when buying a house with their partner or spouse.
Couples may be able to more harmoniously navigate the homebuying process by being together longer before jumping into the housing market.
The data shows that couples together for 5-plus years disagreed frequently or more only 14 percent of the time when searching for a home. In contrast, couples together for four years or less disagreed twice as much with nearly 30 percent disagreeing frequently or more.
Fear of Debt Top Disagreement
Top disagreements among couples include the level of debt to take on (49 percent), the style of house (46 percent), size of house (45 percent), and whether or not to buy a house in need of renovation (43 percent).
Some couples may also struggle with different housing preferences based on gender and location. The data shows that women prefer traditional, cozy homes (48 percent) in the suburbs (54 percent), while men are more open to modern homes (48 percent) in urban-like settings (40 percent). Additionally, survey respondents from the West opted for city living (31 percent) more than those from the Midwest (8 percent).
“Buying a home is stressful for just about anyone, but even more so for couples and first-time homebuyers,” said Matt Humphrey, co-founder and CEO of LendingHome. “To navigate the homebuying process smoothly starts by first being aware of some of the pitfalls. We hope that this data and the resources we provide help couples manage their differences and better communicate during the process.”
In searching for your dream home, it’s important to get clear on your wants versus needs, your firm deal breakers, and ability to analyze the pros and cons. The goal is to get on the same page at the beginning of the search in order to minimize conflict throughout the process.”
Key Housing Differences Among Men and Women
The data shows key housing preferences and differences between men and women:
Women prefer traditional/cozy houses (48 percent) versus modern homes (34 percent). They also prefer the suburbs (54 percent) versus a big city (15 percent), and established neighborhoods (46 percent) versus an urban-like environment (21 percent).
Men are more open to the the style and location of their home. They like modern houses slightly more (48 percent) than traditional/cozy homes (42 percent). They equally like living in an urban-like environment (40 percent) and an established neighborhood (39 percent).
While most men also prefer the suburbs (42 percent) -- yet 12 percent less than women -- their second choice is equally split between living in a city (25 percent) and countryside (24 percent).
All’s Well That Ends Well
In the end, most couples leave their disagreements behind and many are more committed:
60 percent of couples said that their disagreements when buying a house didn’t matter in the end.
Over 50 percent of couples felt more committed to the relationship after purchasing the house.